I don’t think asking for something is asking for too much. The whole online dating thing seems impossible. I have met men in other ways, at BDSM related events for instance, who actually are sincere and know what they are talking about. Men online looking (claiming to be looking) for BDSM and a Domme are too often liars. They want a fantasy. They do not want a real person to take that away from them.
Anyway, I don’t know where else to look at this time. I can’t seem to find any one my own age and in a close enough location who is also single and can accept me as I am (not thin or especially fit at this time). So, for now, I am just not going to care about it very much. I’ve got enough to work on and enough family pushing me to help them too. Not that I mind helping them but it all gets a bit crowded when you are taking on problems that aren’t your own as well as those which actually are your own.
Below is another Fetlife profile which I wrote and then deleted. Some day my prince will come… that’s my fantasy.
I actually want to meet a guy interested in D/s IN REALITY. If a man here is about my age and local I will reply. I will not be talking to people who just want to play around online – pretending this is real to them.
I’m a Dragon. Born in the year of the dragon. I’m an INTP.
What does this mean?
I don’t like playing games unless they are RPG like Dungeons and Dragons. I also like city building games and I have a soft spot for Carmageddon.
I write adult fiction and non-fiction. Sometimes I get paid for it.
I do not get paid to be anyone’s Domme. I take Domming personally. The man I choose to Dom will not be one of the endless do-me trolls. He will also be local enough that we will meet in real time. I don’t want to play online and I won’t be playing casually.
I’m not looking for a younger man. If you’re not 40 at least what do you really think I’m going to do with you? Find someone your own age. I want intelligent conversation with someone who will know what I’m talking about. If you’re too young I’m going to have to wait while you look things up on the Internet.
Let’s also be clear on the fact that I am not thin, or fit. I’m not very tall but I’m a large woman. I want a large man. No, I’m not talking about your cock. Put it back in your pants and think with your other head. I’ve already written about wanting someone I can talk to. I also want someone I can enjoy. I don’t want a slender guy because I’m used to big guys and smaller guys seem breakable by comparison. That’s just how it is.
The man I want must be single. Divorced is fine. I’m ok with the single Dad full time or part time. I’m fairly kid friendly. Lots of practice.
He really should be at least a little nerdy or geeky too. I really like science fiction. I also like history, so he could be a history nerd.
I photograph abandoned places, urban exploration in rural Ontario. I’m interested in a road trip buddy. I’m a great navigator.
I could say the man I want doesn’t have to be all of these things, but he does need to have at least the majority of them. Some people will think I’m asking for too much but I’m really not going to be happy with a man who isn’t close enough to meet/ date, near my age, single and big (BHM). I don’t really see that as asking for a lot.
One last thing, I want a relationship which includes D/s and a variety of fetishes and such. The relationship part is essential. If you just want anything roughly female looking to serve you as a McDomme you should get a blow up doll.
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